I am telling this from my perspective which might be different from other single mums. We each have our own way of doing things but this is Amai Mudiwa’s way.
Quite often…well a lot I’ve been called ‘stuck-up, Ice Queen, picky, etc’. That’s probably right. Now when it comes to matters of the heart/my love life I have to be extremely careful. I cannot afford to be like a girl/woman who has no child.
I have to be picky because what I allow into my life has an impact on the boy I’m raising. If I am to have someone who is going to be a constant tic in my neck then that affects my well being at the end of the day I take that home to my boy. That simply cannot do.
Whoever I allow into my life has to understand that I am one whole made of two. My son is everything to me I work hard for my bambino. Now how many guys actually get that? It’s not as if I’m going to force him on you from the first moment (hell to the no gotta know you first). Acknowledge that he’s there and if we actually work out you must accept him as well. Now how many men can actually do that?
Stability really is important. I cannot afford to be with someone who is working on getting their act together. Already am raising a kid then I can’t raise a man as well.
Last point. I simply cannot afford a heartbreak. Kare I’d do retail therapy but now ohodo (you know how expensive 6 year old boys clothes are?!) Not only that I have his future to prepare for. The emotions that come with that. I’m an intense person when I’m with someone I’m in hook, line and sinker. Now imagine what heartbreak is like for a person like me?
In light of that the Dating Game is not simple for me. I have my fears. Again my perspective not everyone else’s