The best lessons I learnt this year were one that took me a while to be able to share with the world. It’s not really about what they are but who they came from, I guess. See I don’t like making new friends, I’m paranoid like that. She was the exception, however. Let’s call her Lover of Things.
LT and I met through mutual acquaintances and we hit it off. That type of hitting it off that you felt like you’ve known this person forever. In a lot of ways she was the big sister I never had.Being on different sides of the marriage fence I believe we learnt a lot from each other. These are some of the life lesson I received from her.
1. More people like me exist in the world
Coming off of an abusive relationship, you leave with a lot of questions. Why did I stick around for as long as I did? Where did I think this was going? Is something wrong with me?
There’s a time where you feel like an exception or alone in this world, well I reminded LT of her brother and her hubby. Interesting, huh?
2. There’s always light at the end of the tunnel
The cliche “it’s darkest before dawn” is very true. The end of something is usually the beginning of something else and sometimes you just have to let life happen without interfering. At times we hold on because, well humans love familiarity. The unknown is a scary thought more terrifying than the bogey monster.
Coming from an emotionally-taxing breakup the question, “What now?” rears it’s not-so-pretty head. There is hope for all of us, after all.
3. Everyone comes into your life for a reason
I don’t believe that people randomly come into your life and leave without achieving a purpose. In the month(s) that I knew LT she taught me a lot about myself and life. So what happened between me and LT you may be asking…
4. Even the best intentions can be misconstrued
I can talk about this now because I’m now in a better place. Well my friendship with LT came to an abrupt end one morning after a call from her phone number, not from her…
It was her hubby who thought I was being “inappropriate” with his wife, which was strange to me because I didn’t even see LT in that light. Long story short, I stopped communicating with her. I guess it was all for a purpose because the next person I would connect with was….