The moment you label it a mistake you’re labelling your baby the same thing. In most cases these babies are made with the two parties knowing exactly what they’re doing. Labelling the whole situation a mistake is denial. So what are you calling that blessing you have? I had to correct some relatives who’d say ‘Ah zvinowanikwa she made a mistake.’ Ummmm ummmmm I owned/own my status as a single mother/mvana. Ndozvandiri.
Now Mambo Cassa asked an interesting question ‘Why do single mums get iffy when asked where their baby daddy is?’. This is my perspective. That question is totally different from ‘What happened between you and your baby daddy?’.
Most of us simply do not keep tabs on the whereabouts of our baby daddies coz we’re too busy getting on with our lives. We’ve got our kids to take care of and their futures too. So if you ask that the typical answer is ‘I don’t know’ coz honestly we don’t know kuti vanenge varipi. That’s the business of his current squeeze to know kuti ari papi.
